Each behavior was the best choice an individual had at that particular time.
With the wisdom of today, you would often have preferred to have done something in an other way in the past. But that's only natural, because you got that wisdom by doing it and by actually making 'mistakes'. Another way of viewing this NLP principle is: everyone is doing their best with the tools they have available at that particular moment. This principle also has to do with the next presupposition about always having a positive intention......
Behind every behavior lies a positive intention.
The positive intention, also referred to as 'secondary gain', is one of the most important factors in a problem. Let's start straightaway with an example: someone can smoke because they have the positive intention to have a social moment with a friend who also smokes at the same time. Another example: cursing seems beyond comprehension on the surface. The positive intention of this behaviour could be to feel connection or to be heard......
There is no such thing as failure. Only feedback exists.
Life teaches us by means of our mistakes. If you make a mistake, ask yourself what you have to learn from it. Accept these lessons humbly and gratefully. This way you grow a lot more. If something upsets you, be happy with it. What is the lesson I can learn from this, what do I want to get out of it? Embrace the inevitable process of growing and becoming wiser......
